Have you ever experienced being in a conversation, but really quickly transformed into being a lecture or presentation? The key distinction is that a conversation is between more than one party, it does not just happen in a vacuum of one.
Conversation can happen when either or or both parties decides to do one thing.
- Be curious to learn more about the person in front of them, and in effect giving themself the opportunity to see someone else as their true essence rather than the stuff that gets in the way.
By definition, the “stuff” that gets in the way is generally the genetic makeup of our experiences so far, the energetic frequency that is being broadcast, and the role that any one person is choosing to play at any given time.
The counter to the stuff that get in the way, starts internally from yourself. When you as a listener or speaker can come from a place of unabashed authenticity and freedom from fear of being judged, hurt, or misunderstood, that same energy allows your conversation partner to relax into a space that gives them the option to do the same. People can intuitively pick up on “vibes” as most of us call them, and we unconsciously choose to match the vibes. Stand near someone who has just broken up with their significant other, and you may find yourself talking about your own relationship, or thinking of your own in a short moment.
Thus, be curious to learn more about the person in front of you. By allowing yourself to remove the barriers of personal masking, or inauthenticity, you help create the shared space to be who you truly are. Your conversations will shine.